Bamidbar Before Shavuot

 The Talmud in Megillah (31b) teaches that Ezra instituted to read in shul the blessings and curses from Parshat Ki Tavo before Rosh Hashanah so as to fulfill the doctrine of כְּדֵי שֶׁתִּכְלֶה הַשָּׁנָה וְקִלְלוֹתֶיהָ. “that the year may conclude together with its curses”. The Talmud adds that another aspect of Ezra’s decree was to read the blessings and curses from Parshat Bechukotai before Shavuot. The Talmud notes that the Mishnah in Rosh Hashana refers to Shavuot as the New Year for fruit, and therefore it’s appropriate to read the curses before this New Year begins. Tosfot in Megilah raises the question that usually (as is the case this year) we read Parshat Bamidbar on the Shabbat before Shavuot. (The same is true regarding Ki Tavo: we read it two weeks before Rosh Hashanah). Why don’t we fulfill Ezra’s edict immediately prior to the start of the New Year? Tosfot suggest that the curses are so severe and disconcerting that we schedule a “buffer Shabbat” before celebrating the New Year. However commentators have suggested more intrinsic connections between Parshat Bamidbar and Shavuot. The Talmud in Nedarim (55) teaches that Torah is able to maximally impact those who “make themselves like a Midbar.” Just as a desert is sparse, so too a person who is humble is best suited to absorb the Torah’s lessons. While we must have Jewish pride and be proud that the Torah is ours, Parshat Bamidbar reminds us that the Torah’s way is to adopt a healthy dose of humility. The Chidah (in Nachal Kedumim) writes that the Gematriya of the words במדבר סיני is the same as the word “Shalom”.  Peace and harmony is both a prerequisite for receiving the Torah as well as an outcome of keeping the Torah. Violence in the name of religion is anathema to Jewish tradition. Before receiving it every year, Parshat Bamidbar reminds us that the paths of Torah are peaceful. Rabbi Moshe Feinstein noted that Sefer Bamidbar is referred to as Numbers, Chumash HaPekudim. We count something (or someone) that is valuable and important to us. An appropriate way to prepare for Matan Torah is to be reminded through the Parsha that every single Jew is valuable. Every single Jew is counted because every Jew counts. When we find ourselves part of a large crowd sometimes we think that we don’t really matter, or that our contributions are not necessary. We might say to ourselves “someone else will make the shiva minyan” or “someone else will contribute to the shul” or “someone else will invite that person over for a Shabbat or Yom Tov meal.” We prepare to accept the Torah by remembering that each of us counts and each of our contributions are indispensable.  Parshat Bamidbar also teaches the specifics of the encampment. The lesson is that life is meant to be lived in community and shared with others. We may be individuals but we greatly benefit from camaraderie. Therefore we must choose our company wisely. Parshat Bamidbar reminds us before Shavuot to share our lives with people who are growth oriented and who embrace the Torah. We  embrace our individuality as we grow together in the pursuit of meaning.

The Best Self-Help Advice: Help Others

 Martin Luther King Jr. said the “surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others.” Research published by a team of psychologists at the University of Missouri-Columbia suggests that our own happiness is, indeed, influenced by the kindness and generosity we show others. In one study, participants were approached on the street after parking their cars. They were given a few quarters by a research assistant and were asked to either feed their own parking meters or the meters of an adjacent car. The researchers then asked participants how happy they felt. Interestingly, people who fed others’ meters showed a greater boost in happiness than those who fed their own meters, despite not knowing who they were helping. In another experiment, the researchers asked participants to either recall a time they tried to make someone else happy or themselves. Participants were asked to write a few sentences describing the event and rate how happy it made them feel. Again, participants who were prompted to recall a time they tried to improve the happiness of someone else reported higher levels of remembered happiness than those who wrote about a time when they tried to improve their own happiness. The research squares with other studies showing how spending money on others increases one’s happiness more than spending money on oneself. But it’s not just financial generosity that has the power to increase our happiness — donating our time to someone in need, or simply adopting a mentality that puts others’ happiness above our own, has a positive impact on our psychological well-being. The researchers offer a good explanation for why they saw the results they did. They suggest that it has to do with our basic psychological need for “relatedness,” or feeling close to others. According to the researchers, an attempt to make another person happy inspires feelings of closeness which, in turn, explains why people end up feeling happy themselves. In relating the prohibition of charging interest to a fellow Jew, the Torah in Parshat Behar states (25:35): וְכִֽי־יָמ֣וּךְ אָחִ֔יךָ וּמָ֥טָה יָד֖וֹ עִמָּ֑ךְ וְהֶֽחֱזַ֣קְתָּ בּ֔וֹ. “If your brother becomes destitute and his hand falters beside you, you shall support him”. According to typical Hebrew grammar the correct word for “him” is “Oto”. The word “Bo” usually means “in it” or “through him”. The Skulene Rebbe explained that this pasuk hints at the fact that by helping the person in need you are really supporting and strengthening yourself. Over the years many thinkers, including Kant, Nietzsche, and Freud, have pondered whether humans can act in a purely altruistic manner or are there always ulterior motives when humans do good towards others. From a torah perspective the question is moot. As indicated by the pasuk in our Parsha, feeling good about doing good deeds for others is not a flaw, it’s a feature. As we close the Aron we say the pasuk from Mishlei “עֵץ־חַיִּ֣ים הִ֖יא לַמַּחֲזִיקִ֣ים בָּ֑הּ” Torah is a tree of life for those who take grasp of it. The Chofetz Chaim points out that according to proper grammar, the correct Hebrew word should be “Otah” and not “Bah”. By using this terminology we are reminding ourselves that by engaging in Torah we are strengthening ourselves. Torah is the best Self-Help book out there, because it emphasizes the fact that we are best helped when we help others.

Be Careful with Your Excuses

 Midrash Rabbah (Vayikra 26) tells a story of how Hashem gave Moshe a “sneak peak” into the Jewish future and showed Moshe the main characters, both heroes and villains, of each future generation. Among the images Moshe was shown was the image of King Shaul, first king of Israel, lying next to his son Yonatan and both mortally wounded by Philistine swords. Moved by this vision, Moshe asked Hashem what Shaul had done to deserve such a heinous punishment. Hashem responded that Moshe could talk to the Kohanim (the tie-in with the first words of this week’s Parsha: Emor El HaKohanim) and the Kohanim would tell you that Shaul was liable for a harsh punishment due to his role in the massacre at Nov, a city of Kohanim (as described in Shmuel I: 6). Many have a hard time understanding this midrash. They point out that later in Shmuel I:15 we read how Shaul leads the battle against Amalek. While the prophet told Shaul to destroy everyone and everything associated with Amalek, King Shaul spared Agag, the king of Amalek. The prophet Shmuel confronts Shaul about this lapse and subsequently tells Shaul that he will be punished due to this sin of omission. If The Navi himself says that Shaul is punished for sparing King Agag, then how can the Midrash say that Shaul is punished for destroying the city of Nov? Rabbi Frand quotes an answer from the Sefer HaDrash VehaIyun. It is true that Shaul was punished for sparing the life of King Agag. However Shaul, or his defenders, could have justified his doing so by arguing that Shaul naturally had a soft heart. The argument could have been that Shaul was too compassionate and therefore could not bring himself to slay the Amalekite king. While such a defense would not have completely exonerated Shaul (after all, he still was in violation of a prophetic demand) it could have nonetheless mitigated his sin and softened his punishment. However the massacre at Nov shut down the possibility of any such defense. Shaul demonstrated at Nov that he did not naturally have a soft heart. His sin of sparing Agag was NOT due to an innate sense of compassion; it was completely unjustified and therefore liable for the full brunt of his deserved punishment.  This explanation is something that we need all need to seriously consider and confront in our own lives. There are times in life when we do not live up to the Torah’s expectations or even to our own expectations. Sometimes we will make a compelling excuse for why we did not live up to those expectations. The Midrash is cautioning us to be honest with ourselves about the veracity of those justifications. For instance, a person may justify not volunteering to do chesed because they claim that they have no free time. If that is indeed the case, then perhaps that is a valid justification. However if they find time to engage in leisure or social activities, then that justification becomes suspect and perhaps even an indictment. A person may explain their lack of attendance at minyan or at shiurim is due to a lack of time and conflicting responsibilities. That might be a valid justification. However if that person finds the time for other discretionary activities, like going to the gym or getting together with friends, then their justification should be reevaluated. Just as we feel a need to find the time to work out our bodies, so too we should feel the need to work out our minds and our souls. Just as we feel the need to connect to friends, so too we should feel the need to connect to Hashem and to Am Yisrael. The Torah does not expect us to be superhuman. There are times when we may be exempt from one priority due to our responsibilities towards other priorities. The Midrash at the beginning of Emor reminds us that this only works when we are honest with ourselves and when we have given serious thought to what our life priorities should be.

How We Behave When No One is Looking

 Three of the Mitzvot in Parshat Kedoshim are: 1) Do not curse the deaf or put a stumbling block in the front of the blind; 2) do not hate another person in your heart; 3) and do not have inaccurate weights and measures. At first glance there is no connection between these three prohibitions. However, upon further reflection you realize that all three of these Mitzvot are examples of prohibitions that we could violate and get away with. If I curse the deaf, he can’t hear me. The blind person cannot see who put the stumbling block in front of him. I can hate anyone in my heart without that person or anyone else ever knowing. And if I am a storekeeper and have inaccurate weights and measures, chances are that I could get away with it most of the time. There are three reasons why even if I won’t get caught, these actions are still wrong and must be avoided. First, whether I get caught or not these actions are still hurtful and harmful to the victim. By placing a stumbling block in front of the blind, I am physically hurting him. By having inaccurate weights and measures I am financially harming someone. And cursing the deaf or hating someone in my heart will have a negative impact on the way that person is treated by me and others. Second, even if no other human being catches what I did wrong, Hashem will always know. Perhaps this is why after each of these three Mitzvot the Torah reminds us: “Ani Hashem” “I am G-d”. Hashem is telling us that even if no one else knows what we did, He certainly does and will deal with us accordingly. Lastly, these actions are wrong even if I won’t get caught because of the negative impact that it will have on me. The purpose of the Mitzvot is to make me a better person. Doing a mitzva in public for all to see is a wonderful thing. But even more wonderful is when a person does a Mitzvah when no one is around to see it or to congratulate me.  At the beginning of this week’s Parsha, we read about the gifts to the poor known as Leket, Shikcha and Peah. A field owner must leave some of his crop in his field after the harvest so that poor people can come and take what they need. The field owner does not know the recipient of his charity. It’s also entirely possible that the poor who take this charity do not know who actually owns the field. To give tzedaka in a way that the giver and recipient both remain anonymous is considered by the Rambam as one of the highest forms of Tzedaka. Here again we see an example of a mitzva being performed without any fanfare, and it is considered to be one of the best ways to fulfill it. Just as it is important to perform Mitzvot in public when the spotlight is on us, so too it is important for us to appreciate the value of private and anonymous Mitzvot, when no one is looking. Just as we must be careful to avoid a public Chilul Hashem, we must also avoid bad behavior when no one is looking and when we might be able to get away with it.

Who Doesn’t Like To Celebrate a Birthday Twice?

 This year, we celebrated Yom Haatzmaut on Thursday. Today, Shabbat, is the 5th of Iyar. It was on this date in 1948 that David Ben Gurion declared the creation of the State of Israel.  

The 5th of Iyar can only fall on Monday, Wednesday, Friday or Shabbat. Initially, the Chief Rabbinate ruled that when the 5th of Iyar falls on either Friday or Shabbat, Yom Ha’atzmaut should be moved up to the preceding Thursday. Later, the Chief Rabbinate observed that whenever Yom Ha’atzmaut fell on a Monday, the preparations for Yom Hazikaron, which would begin on Saturday night, would inevitably result in chilul Shabbat. Therefore, the Chief Rabbinate decided that both Yom Hazikaron and Yom Ha’atzmaut would be pushed off by one day. In other words, Yom Hazikaron would occur on Monday, 5 Iyar, and Yom Ha’atzmaut would take place on Tuesday, 6 Iyar. It emerges that when Yom Ha’atzmaut falls out on three out of its four possible days, it is not observed on the 5^th of Iyar. A precedent for this is Purim Meshulash. When Shushan Purim falls on Shabbat, they read the Megilah in Jerusalem on Friday and eat their Purim Seuda on Sunday, but they say Al Hanisim and read the Torah reading for Purim on Shabbat. By Purim, the essence of the day itself is not postponed. Instead, only those mitzvot which are likely to lead to chilul Shabbat are moved up or delayed. However, mitzvot which have no negative impact on Shabbat i.e. Al HaNissim and the Torah reading for Purim, are not postponed. What about by Yom Haatzmaut? Modern Poskim grapple with these considerations. In 1981, Rav Goren concluded that when Yom Ha’atzmaut falls on Friday or Shabbat, Hallel should be recited on Shabbat, because it can be without leading to chilul Shabbat. Other Rabbis did not make Rav Goren’s distinction and postponed all of the day’s mitzvot to the changed date.  What about in America? Perhaps the Diaspora should celebrate on 5 Iyar, no matter what, because there are no national celebrations that could potentially result in chilul Shabbat. On the other hand, since the holiday’s essence was derived from the Chief Rabbinate of Israel, perhaps Jews worldwide are obligated to follow the Chief Rabbinate’s ruling. Rav Gedalia Dov Schwartz, the Av Beit Din of the CRC, ruled that Yom Ha’atzmaut should be observed on the 5th of Iyar, no matter what.. Although other American Rabbis followed the Chief Rabbinate’s ruling, he felt that the reasons behind the postponement did not apply in the diaspora. Yet, when the Chief Rabbi of Israel requested that Rav Schwartz change his ruling, he did so graciously. And the Jews of Chicago followed the ruling of the Chief Rabbinate as of 2004. Here in Hollywood we said Hallel on Thursday as they did in Israel. I believe doing so is an opportunity to demonstrate the deep and intrinsic connection that we should all feel to Israel and to how Judaism is practiced there. This may be even more relevant as we reach the point where a majority of worldwide Jewry lives in Israel. In addition to its being a demonstration of Jewish unity and care for Israel, Rav Tzvi Yehuda Kook stressed that advancing Yom Ha’atzmaut from Shabbat to the preceding Thursday is a remarkable Kiddush Hashem. The date change indicates that the Jewish State is thereby refraining from chilul Shabbat, which is a public and prominent Kiddush Hashem. Who doesn’t like to celebrate a birthday twice? How fortunate are we to celebrate Israel’s 77^th birthday; not just on Thursday, Yom Haatzmaut, but today as well on the 5^th of Iyar.

From Yom Hashoah to Yom Ha’Atzmaut

We find two curious exchanges between Moshe and Aharon “BaYom HaShemini,” on the eighth day of the inauguration of the newly constructed Mishkan. Chazal explain that this day was as joyous as the day in which Hashem created heaven and earth (Megillah 10b). Amidst this incredible joy, tragedy suddenly struck as Nadav and Avihu, the sons of Aharon, are abruptly killed for bringing a foreign fire into the Mishkan. In the first exchange, Moshe tells Aharon that Hashem referred to his sons' deaths as being sanctified by those who were closest to Hashem(10:3). In response to this, “VaYidom Aharon”, Aharon remained silent. In the second exchange, Moshe instructs Aharon and his family not to observe the typical mourning rituals and to instead continue with the Mishkan service (10:6), Moshe discovers that the sons of Aharon disobeyed Moshe and decided not to eat one of the sin-offerings. Instead, they burned it on the altar. Moshe asks the Kohanim why they did not consume the Korban Chattat, and Aharon responds with a respectful counter-argument which Moshe accepts (10:19-20). My friend and colleague Rabbi Chaim Poupko suggested that in these two exchanges we find two different responses to suffering. In the first, Aharon remained silent; he can do nothing but accept the harsh Divine decree against his two sons. His silence is an expression of “Baruch Dayan HaEmet,” that Hashem is the true Judge, without complaining or seeking to understand. Aharon exemplified what Rav Soloveitchik refers to as “the man of fate”: a person who stands perplexed and confused before the greatest of mysteries; the mysteries of suffering and why bad things happen to good people. In the second exchange, Moshe embodied what the Rav describes as “the man of destiny.” When Moshe points out that the sons of Aharon neglected the proper procedure for the sin-offering Moshe is encouraging a different response to tragedy; not silence like the man of fate, but action and a sense of purpose. Rav Soloveotchik explains that this type of response is emblematic of “the man of destiny”: willing to confront the environment in which suffering is occurring and makes every effort to find a path through that suffering. The Rav used these two concepts of fate and destiny to understand the relationship between the Holocaust, which we commemorated on Yom Hashoah, and the establishment of the State of Israel, which we will celebrate Wednesday night on Yom Ha’Atzmaut. Responding theologically to the Holocaust is very difficult. Perhaps the best response is that of the man of fate. Instead of any explanation or answers, all we have is confusion, bewilderment, and silence. However, rising from the ashes of the Holocaust came the building of the State of Israel. Yom Ha’Atzamut and Medinat Yisrael represent a response by the man of destiny: to seek a path through which the suffering of the Holocaust has a purpose, even if it remains without explanation. As a survivor of the Holocaust, Rav Yehuda Amital (founding Rosh Yeshiva of Gush) was a living embodiment of these two attitudes. In 1985, he addressed his students at an event celebrating the 40th anniversary of his arrival to Israel. He spoke to them candidly about why he chose to celebrate his salvation from the Holocaust together with his Aliyah. Since he cannot answer the question of “why me?” he cannot celebrate his salvation from the Holocaust alone; he can celebrate it only in conjunction with his Aliyah to Israel. As Rav Amital said: “These doubts plague me until this day. Clearly, the answer lies in the hands of God, and because I do not know the answer, I do not have the boldness to designate a specific day as a holiday because I was saved. Thus I combine both focal points of my life, my salvation and my Aliyah, into one personal holiday. And yet... I still feel that heavy burden.” We can follow in Rav Amital’s footsteps by embracing both the man of fate and the man of destiny within each of us and meaningfully marking this transition from Yom Hashoah to Yom Ha’Atzmaut. 

Living Lives of Heroism

 On the Seventh Day of Pesach, we note the heroes that emerged on that very first Shevii shel Pesach on the shores of the Red Sea. Though he is not mentioned explicitly in the text, the most famous hero of today’s story is Nachshon ben Aminadav. We have all heard how Nachshon took the initiative to enter the waters when everyone else was reluctant to do so. As the waters reached his nose, God initiated the miracle that split the Sea. According to our Rabbis (Bamidbar Rabba 13:9) Nachshon’s name is derived from Nichshol, which means stormy waters.  Nachshon acted like a hero, because a hallmark of a hero is one who takes initiative when no one else is willing to; a hero acts in a way that is necessary even when it is not popular. The Heroic Imagination Project is a non-profit organization that focuses on teaching people to become heroes, or as they put it “To teach individuals the skills and awareness needed to make effective decisions in challenging situations.” The Project identifies 4 key elements of heroism:

1)      It's voluntary 2) It is done in the service of people or communities in need 3) It involves some type of risk, either physical, social, or in terms of quality of life 4) It is done without the need for recompense or material gain.

The actions of Nachshon at the sea encompass all of these elements.  Jewish tradition offers two more traits of a hero. Pirkei Avot teaches: Ayzehu Gibor Hakovesh et yitzro: A Hero is one that conquers his/her natural inclination. Instead of heroic action always being found in grandiose initiative, Jewish heroics can be found in holding ourselves back. As Rav Soloveitchik (whose yahrzeit was this past Wednesday) wrote in an essay (Catharsis pg 42): “The heroic person, according to our view, does not succumb to frenzy or excitement. Biblical heroism is not ecstatic but rather contemplative; not loud but hushed; not dramatic or spectacular but mute.”

If we want to do something but we know that it is bad for someone else or for our soul and we refrain from doing it - that’s not just righteous- that’s heroic. For instance, when someone says something to you that you construe as insulting or insensitive, and you “hold your tongue” – you have acted heroically.  Avot D’Rav Natan (23:1) offers a second characteristic of being a Jewish hero: Mi Sheoseh Soneh Ohavo: a hero who works to change enemies into friends. Conventional wisdom sees heroes as acting independently on behalf of others. The Jewish view is that a hero is one that broadens the boundaries of community. By turning enemies into friends, heroes value inclusivity, thereby increasing the size and quality of the community.

Each of us can and must be a hero. Sometimes we may have a Nachshon moment, when we are called upon to do something extraordinary or unpopular. If/ when that happens we hope that Hashem gives us the strength to do the right thing. But until that opportunity presents itself, let us remember the hallmarks of the everyday hero: Kovesh Et Yitzro, i.e. exhibiting self-control. And Mi She’oseh Soneh- Ohavo: concerning ourselves with others, even those on the periphery, and appreciating the strength of a diverse community. By doing so, let us realize that instead of undertaking heroic action sporadically, Shevii shel Pesach teaches us that we have opportunities on an ongoing basis to live our lives as heroes.