A Letter to my Son on his Bar Mitzvah

 Dear Eitan,

As you know, I am fortunate to attend more brisses than the average Jew. Every once in a while I will attend a bris at which the father of the baby will note the baby's future Bar Mitzvah Parsha and will then connect that Parsha to the bris in some way. I wish I had thought of doing that for my sons’ bris. At the time I was just glad that I remembered the name that your mother and I had decided upon. At your bris I spoke about your name. As you know your middle name, Chaim, is named for your maternal Great-grandfather, Chaim Yeager. Zayde Chaim valued above all his family and his relationship with Hashem. A survivor of the Holocaust, Zayde Chaim loved nothing more than to spend time with his family, to go to shul daily, and to recite Tehillim. Your first name, Eitan, is found about a dozen times throughout Tanach. Eitan is the author of Tehillim Chapter 89: Maskil L’Eitan Ha’Ezrachi. Some say that this Eitan is the person mentioned in Divrei Hayamim as a Levi with the creativity and faith necessary to help compose poems utilized by King David. Others identify Eitan HaEzrachi as Avraham Avinu. For the word Eitan means strength, courage (strength of character) and is a name associated with all three of the Avot. For example, the month of Tishrei is referred to as Yerach Ha’eitanim, the month of the strong, because in it all three of the patriarchs were born. When you were born your siblings wanted us to name you Yitzchak to round out the Avot Weinstock, since we already had a Yaakov and an Avraham. I tried to convince them then that since all of the Avot are referred to as Eitan, it’s as if you were named Yitzchak. They didn’t buy it. As you know, Eitan, we gave you a name associated with strength because before you were born the doctors informed us that while every baby is special and unique, your anatomy is more unique than most. (For instance, in order to listen to your heart the doctor has to put her stethoscope under your armpit.) Even the doctors were unsure of how this uniqueness would impact function. We chose to name you Eitan as a prayer that you would grow up to be strong physically, emotionally, spiritually and religiously. As we celebrate your Bar Mitzvah this Shabbat we thank Hashem for answering our prayer. At your bris I also mentioned that the events surrounding your birth taught us the importance of optimism and gratitude, two themes that you often hear me speak about in public (yes, in addition to the theme of Achdut). At your bris, on Yom Hatazmut 2012, I noted that It was no coincidence that the first declaration made by Eitan HaEzrachi in Tehillim 89 is: חַֽסְדֵּ֣י ה עוֹלָ֣ם אָשִׁ֑ירָה לְדֹ֥ר וָדֹ֓ר אוֹדִ֖יעַ אֱמוּנָֽתְךָ֣ בְּפִֽי: “I will sing of Hashem’s kindness forever, I will make Your faithfulness known to every generation.”

If I had looked up your Bar Mitzvah Parsha before your bris I would have added the following to my remarks: “In 13 years, Eitan Chaim’s Bar Mitzvah will fall out, B’Ezrat Hashem, on Parshat Vayikra - and everyone here today is invited to attend. The first pasuk of that Parsha is: וַיִּקְרָ֖א אֶל־משֶׁ֑ה וַיְדַבֵּ֤ר יָ-ה֙ אֵלָ֔יו מֵאֹ֥הֶל מוֹעֵ֖ד לֵאמֹֽר: “And He called to Moses, and the Lord spoke to him from the Tent of Meeting, saying..” This verse seems repetitive. If Hashem spoke to Moshe, then why must we be told that Hashem first called to Moshe? Rabbi Jonathan Sacks explained that the first word in this Parsha teaches us the concept of a calling. As Rabbi Sacks put it: “the choice of career or way of life (is) not just because you want to do it, or because it offers certain benefits, but because you feel summoned to it. You feel this is your meaning and mission in life, this is what you were placed on earth to do.” Rabbi Sacks suggested a definition for discovering our calling: “Where what we want to do meets what needs to be done, that is where God wants us to be.”

Eitan, since I missed the chance at your bris, I reference your Bar Mitzvah Parsha today and bless you that you continue to develop into a mensch and a Ben Torah and that you utilize all of the strengths that Hashem has blessed you with in order to find your calling and to answer that call.

Love,

Abba

Seeing the Forest of the Mishkan

 “And Betzalel, the son of Uri the son of Chur, of the tribe of Judah, did everything that Hashem had commanded Moshe.”

Rashi notes the unusual phrasing of this pasuk. It should say that Betzalel did all that Moshe commanded HIM. Or it should say that Betzalel did all that Hashem commanded HIM through Moshe. Instead it says that Betzalel did all that Hashem commanded Moshe. Rashi quotes the Gemara in Brachot that explains how Betzalel proved to Moshe his suitability for the job:

When Moshe gave Betzalel his instructions he told him to first build the Klei Hamishkan and then put together the curtains and beams that comprise the sanctuary itself. Betzalel refused on the grounds that an architect must first build the house and only then decorate the interior with furniture. Moshe was impressed with Betzalel’s refusal; in fact Hashem had commanded him to first build the Mishkan and then work on the utensils. So Betzalel defied Moshe, and in so doing fulfilled the Divine command that actually had been conveyed to Moshe.

Why did Moshe want to build the keilim before there was a location to store them? And what was this dispute really about?

According to the Midrash, at this time Betzalel was only 13 years old. Developmental psychologist will tell you that early adolescence is a time during which children test limits in a more sophisticated (almost adult) manner. They begin to demand answers to why questions, not just what and how. These two characteristics can help explain why Betzalel was adamant to build the Mishkan before the vessels, against the command of Moshe.

There’s a tremendous amount of detail involved in the building of the vessels of Mishkan, ie aron, menorah, shulchan. Moshe wanted to start with the more detailed and interesting aspects of construction. But before getting bogged down in details, it’s important to take a step back and ask: What is this all about? What am I doing here? What is my goal? Sometimes we are so focused on the details of a project or the rat race of day to day living, that we don’t take a step back to appreciate what it’s all about.

Betzalel understood this. At his age, it was at the forefront of his mind. He realized that before they built specific vessels, there needed to be a vision for the overall project. And so he worked first on building the general structure of the Mishkan. Only then did he turn his attention to the specific vessels, each with their own specifications, each with their own meaning and lessons.
Sometimes we get so bogged down in the details of life that we don’t have a chance to look at the big picture: What am I trying to accomplish? What are my goals? Why am I doing what I am doing? Betzalel the Bar Mitzvah boy understood the importance of addressing these issues. He understood that we must first define our goal. The purpose of the mishkan was to have sacred space in this world dedicated to G-dliness and Jewish unity. So he began his efforts on the actual sanctuary and then moved on to the individual components of that vision.

Betzalel taught us two important lessons: 1) Never lose sight of the big picture 2) and be prepared to reevaluate and refine that big picture on an ongoing basis. Betzalel’s approach was ultimately endorsed by Moshe; for he called him B’tzel Kel, “one who dwells in the shadow of God”. Betzalel’s approach was endorsed by G-d, his building project was successful, and our Parsha ends with God’s presence dwelling in the mishkan.

We too must do our best to be mindful of the big picture and make sure to revisit it on an ongoing basis. By doing so, we can also benefit from the blessing described as the culmination of the Mishkan construction: The Divine presence and Hashem’s blessings permeating our lives.

Vote Slate 5 in the World Zionist Congress Elections

Dear Friends:

Every five years, the World Zionist Organization (WZO), one of the most influential

organizations in the Jewish world, of which 30% is controlled by US Jewry, holds a

crucial election.

This election, which runs from March 10, through May 4, gives American Jews the

opportunity to vote for representatives in the World Zionist Congress. The number of

seats a slate receives directly impacts leadership decisions, policies, and the allocation

of over $1 billion annually toward Jewish education, aliyah, security, and other vital

causes.

We are proud to both be members of the National Board of RZA: Religious Zionists of

America, the US affiliate of Mizrachi. We are also proud to both be candidates on the

Orthodox Israel Coalition (OIC) slate seeking election to the World Zionist Congress.

We strongly encourage our members, and all Jews over age 18, to vote for Orthodox

Israel Coalition (OIC) Mizrachi, slate #5. Coalition partners include RZA-Mizrachi, YU,

OU, RCA, Amit, Bnei Akiva, NCYI, Touro University, and Sephardic organizations such

as Shvilim and UMJCA.

Your vote will ensure that our Religious Zionist voice is heard. An authentic Torah voice

of integration and unity: integration between Judaism and Zionism; Torah learning and

army service; between Torah u’Madda; and balancing Israel and Diaspora needs.

YOUR VOTE FOR OIC-MIZRACHI HELPS US STRENGTHEN ISRAEL AND

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We believe it is critical for our Religious Zionist community to vote for Slate 5 OIC

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Thank you,

Rabbi Yosef Weinstock & Lisa Baratz

Purim and Yom Kippurim

The Zohar suggests that there is a connection between the holiday of Purim and Yom Kippur, which in the Torah is called Yom HaKippurim. At first glance the two days are as different as can be. Yom Kippur is a solemn day of fasting, while Purim is a joyous day of feasting. Yet upon closer examination one will note a number of similarities. First, both holidays commemorate the drawing of lots. In Megillat Esther we read how Haman chose the date on which to annihilate the Jewish People by drawing lots. In the Torah we read how on Yom Kippur the Kohen Gadol would draw lots to determine the fate of the two identical goats: one would be offered LaHashem as a sacrifice on the Mizbeaich, while the other goat, La’Azazel, would be thrown off a cliff in the Judean wilderness. Second, both Purim and Yom Kippur are specially mentioned as being “forever” holidays. Midrash Mishlei teaches (9:1): “All of the holidays are to be nullified in the future but the days of Purim will not be nullified, as it is stated: “And these days of Purim will not be rescinded from the Jews.” (Esther 9:28).  Rabbi Elazar said: Also Yom Kippur will forever not be nullified, as it is stated, “And it will be to you for an everlasting statute to atone for the Children of Israel from all of their sins once a year.” (Vayikra 16:34). Perhaps this Midrash is teaching us that we will always need opportunities to feel God’s Presence in an acute and poignant way, like on Yom Kippur, but also in a more ambiguous and hidden way, such as in the Purim story. Lastly, both holidays focus on standing before a royal figure. In Megilat Esther we read how Esther risked her life by appearing before the king in his inner sanctum without an invitation. And Yom Kippur was the one day of the year on which the Kohen Gadol would enter into the inner sanctum of the Beit Hamikdash. The Kodesh Hakodoshim is understood to be the location in which the Presence of Hashem, the King of kings, was most imminently perceived. This royal connection between Purim and Yom Kippur is appreciated more in light of the tradition that while God’s name is nowhere in the Megillah, it is alluded to through every mention of “the king”. While on a literal level the king in the Megilah is Achashverosh, on a deeper level we are supposed to recognize the role that Hashem plays behind the scenes throughout the Purim story. The Talmud (Shabbat 88) teaches that since at Sinai the Jewish People accepted the Torah under a degree of duress, it was important for us to accept the Torah a second time- which is what happened in the Purim story and is alluded to in the Megilah by the words “kiymu v’’kiblu” “The Jews ordained and took upon themselves” which is understood to mean “the Jews ordained (on Purim) what they had already taken upon themselves (at Sinai).” Yom Kippur commemorates a second receiving of the Luchot. In this week’s Parsha we read how Moshe broke the first Luchot in response to the sin of the golden calf. 120 days later Moshe came down with the second set of tablets- on Yom Kippur. While the first Luchot were “written by God” the second were written by Moshe. Hashem is teaching us that if we want something to be permanent and to remain important to us, then we must invest our energies into it. This is also the lesson of Purim. Unlike most other holidays, where Hashem did most of the work and performed miracles, Purim commemorates a story in which human beings took the risks, took the initiative, and exhibit bravery and self-sacrifice. Purim and Yom Kippur are forever holidays because they both celebrate human effort and human initiative. Whether it is our relationships, our professions, our shul, or our Jewish identity, we love and treasure those things in which we invest and toil. 

Nosh a Hamantasch!

 Tosfot in Brachot (35a) write that there was a baked good eaten on Purim called “nilash” whose bracha was either Mezonot or Hamotzi. The Bach (16^th century) writes that baked items such as Nilash should only be eaten in the context of a bread meal to avoid the brachah question. However, the Bach writes that “Purim kreplach”, a sweet pastry filled with nuts, is definitely Mezonot. The Bach’s “Purim kreplach” are similar to what we call hamantaschen. The Taz (17^th century) describes hamantaschen as sweet pastries stuffed with seeds. The classic hamantasch was always filled with poppy seeds. Indeed, the very word “haman” can either refer to the wicked Haman or poppy seeds (mohn), and the Yiddish word “tash” means pocket. Thus, “hamantaschen” means “poppy-seed-filled pockets.” The bracha on the Taz’s hamantasch was definitely Mezonot. The Mishna Berurah (20^th century) suggests that hamantaschen must have evolved over time. In the Taz’s time they were a dessert food, while 200 years later, some were eating hamantaschen as the staple of a meal and its bracha was Hamotzi. There are a number of suggestions offered as to the relationship between hamantaschen and Purim. One suggestion is based on a Midrash that states that on the night that Achashverosh couldn’t sleep in Shushan, the 3 Avot also couldn’t sleep in Mearat Hamachpela in Chevron. The midrash is teaching us that the Avot are disturbed when the Jewish People are in potential or actual danger. In the merit of the Avot, Hama’s strength was weakened. Hamantasch is a contraction of the Hebrew words “Haman Tash” ie Haman was weakened. In Hebrew hamantaschen are called “Aznei Haman”, ie Haman’s ears. Some suggest that this alludes to the fact that while all other nations heard about the Jews’ exodus from Egypt and were impressed and afraid, Amalek (ancestor of Haman) were not impacted by what they heard, and they attacked Bnei Yisrael. Just as there is a custom to eat hamantaschen on Purim, there is also a custom to eat meat filled kreplach on Hoshana Rabbah and Erev Yom Kippur. Some have a custom to also eat kreplach on Purim. By both foods, the filling is hidden by the dough. Purim, Hoshana Rabbah and Erev Yom Kippur are considered auspicious days even though there are no restrictions on work on those days. It ends up that these three days are like kreplach and hamantaschen in that their goodness is hidden. On a related note, some suggest that we eat hamantaschen because, like the filling, the miracle of Purim is hidden. One can explain the events of the Purim story as purely coincidence and unfolding in a natural and normal fashion, without any Divine Intervention. In reality, Purim commemorates a major miracle and Hashem was behind the scenes the entire time. Sometimes we must get beyond the dough in our life to appreciate all of the good stuff that Hashem bestows upon us. Hamantaschen is a great example of food, tradition, history, Jewish law, and Jewish values all coming together in one delicious bite.

Enduring Lesson of the Upright Acacia

 One of the building materials of the Mishkan mentioned in Parshat Terumah is atzei shitim, acacia wood. Midrash Tanchuma explains that when Yaakov and his family moved to Egypt, he planted acacia trees. He told his family that one day in the future, after the Exodus from Egypt, the Jewish people would be commanded to build a Tabernacle that would require acacia wood. At that time they should use these trees. When Hashem commanded Moshe to build the Mishkan using acacia wood, God also told him that he should use the trees planted by Yaakov. This Midrash teaches us a number of important lessons. One lesson is the importance of “planting seeds” for the future. Had Yaakov not planted trees centuries earlier, the Jewish People would have had a more difficult time sourcing wood for the Mishkan. The Midrash takes this idea even further by explaining that these trees had even greater Yichus, pedigree. Yaakov got the seeds from trees planted by Avraham Avinu in Beer Sheva. The pasuk actually refers to the wood as (26:15) “Atzei Shittim Omdim” which literally means “upright acacia wood”. What does this mean and what is it meant to teach us? Rabbi Yaakov Kamenetsky explained this term by way of the Talmud in Sukkah (45b) in which Hashem commanded Moshe to utilize wood in the construction of the Mishkan that would last forever, ie it would never warp or rot. It would stand up to the test of time and exist forever. Moshe wondered how this was possible, when the status of the Mishkan depended not on anything Moshe did but on the worthiness of Bnei Yisrael. If the Jews were worthy, then the Mishkan would exist forever, but if they sinned then the Mishkan would be destroyed. The answer lies in the Yichus, the origins, of this wood. This wood traces itself back to the trees of Yaakov and Avraham Avinu. Any items and efforts embarked upon for a holy and noble purpose are guaranteed to last forever. This powerful idea helps to explain a passage in the Talmud (Baba Metzia 85b): Rabbi Chiya bragged that he ensures the perpetuity of Torah and Jewish life by creating Torah scrolls from scratch and teaching both the Written and Oral Torahs to students who then teach it to other students. “I go and sow flax seeds and twine nets with the flax, and then I hunt deer and feed their meat to orphans. Next I prepare parchment from their hides and I write the five books of the Torah on them. I go to a city and teach five children the five books, one book per child, and I teach six other children the six orders of the Mishna, and I say to them: Until I return and come here, read each other the Torah and teach each other the Mishna. This is how I act to ensure that the Torah will not be forgotten by the Jewish people.”  The question remains: How can Rabbi Chiya be 100% sure that his students, and their students after, will not become distanced from Torah? The answer is that while people might forget what they were taught, they will never forget what was done for them, nor how they were made to feel. Rabbi Chiya’s Torah would be remembered because it was accompanied by much care and effort. He didn’t merely teach his students; he made nets that were used to catch deer in order to use their hides to make scrolls of Torah. While he was at it, he donated the kosher deer meat to those less fortunate. The lesson of the upright acacia wood is that while we may forget lesson taught to us through words, we will never forget lessons taught to us through actions. 

Postscript to Matan Torah

 While Matan Torah is depicted in Parshat Yitro, the culmination of the Sinai experience is described in Parshat Mishpatim. As I process the news coming from Israel on Thursday, there are few aspects of the Postscript to Sinai that seem particularly poignant at this moment. First, it is only now in Mishpatim that we read how Bnai Yisrael responded to the Torah with “Naaseh V’Nishma”. The Midrash describes how impressed Hashem was with this response, so much so that He granted each Jew with “two crowns”, one for each of these commitments. The theology behind the commitment of “we will do and we will listen” is that as human beings we cannot possibly fully understand God’s laws. While we are encouraged to seek meaning and reasons behind the mitzvot, on a basic level we must commit to doing even if we do not necessarily understand all of the time. We call the reasons behind mitzvot “Ta’amim” which literally means taste or flavor. To use a food analogy Torah and Mitzvot are fundamentally nourishing to our souls. Not everything that’s good for us necessarily tastes good. And everyone has different senses of taste. Furthermore our sense of taste can differ over the course of our lifetime due to both external and internal factors, such as our health and our environment. While we should always seek to enjoy Jewish learning and Jewish learning, the foundation of our Jewish identity must be a commitment to Hashem in good times and less good times, when we understand what is happening and even when we don’t. “Naaseh V’Nishma” is similarly important for us to tap into when we are confronted with incomprehensible evil and sadness, some of the feelings many of us feel as the remains of innocent Israeli hostages were returned from Gaza after more than 500 days of captivity. We must mourn the losses, and we must remind the world that Hamas is barbaric and pure evil and must be totally annihilated. As we do that we also double down on the unbreakable relationship we have with Hashem and our unbreakable Jewish identity and pride in the Jewish People and the Jewish State of Israel. Second, between the depiction of Matan Torah in Yitro and the Postscript in Mishpatim, the Torah interrupts with dozens of commandments related to civil law and the proper functioning of society. I believe that this shift is meant to highlight to us the importance of Achdut. The experience of receiving the Torah was very lofty and spiritual. It was a very personal experience. While learning Torah can replicate that ethereal experience (and we should daily find ways to tap into that feeling), Living Torah finds expression in the messiness of dealing with real people, or navigating power imbalances, in how we treat our family – and our enemies. It finds expression in how we value compassion and justice and fairness, and in how we abhor cruelty and vanquish evil. While the bookends of Matan Torah are about our personal relationship with Hashem, the book itself is focused on our relationship with each other. The prerequisite for Matan Torah was Achdut, and the anticipated outcome of Matan Torah is Achdut. The first and most essential response to challenging times and to aspirations for a better future must also be Achdut